*This is an excerpt from our new book Forgiveness: Conditional Or Absolute? Cutting Through The Confusion As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him. (Psalm 18:30 ) When forgiveness is misunderstood, abuse often follows. Manipulators and abusers thrive where there is faulty forgiveness. Therefore, this gives us even more motivation to accurately understand forgiveness and reconciliation—not just for ourselves, but for everyone else Continue Reading
The Deadly Love Tank Fallacy
For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, And hewn themselves cisterns—broken cisterns that can hold no water. - Jeremiah 2:13 Over the past 25 years of serving in a biblical counseling and equipping ministry, I've run into a multitude of harmful and false teachings in the Church, as well as in the realm of counseling. However, I have not come across a more destructive teaching among Christians—particularly when it comes to married couples, Continue Reading
13 Traits of Trustworthy People
As a counselor, I often get asked, usually after one person has been deeply hurt by another person, “How can I know for sure if I can trust them again?” This is a great question—and a wise one—which, fortunately, comes with a lot of helpful answers. In fact, this is so important that our wellbeing and the quality of our relationships—and any possible reconciliation—depend on knowing and living according to the right answers. Therefore, with so much at stake, we should be relatively thorough in Continue Reading