THE END OF OUR MARRIAGE? After several years of unhealthy communication, harmful coping, growing resentment and hopelessness, and so much more, our marriage seemed to be over. Pop-psychology and some religious leaders affirmed that it likely was over, that too much damage had been done. At the same time we were continuously told to “trust the process” and “give it time”—and that involuntary separation from each other without guidance could be healthy, even in parental alienation with our Continue Reading
15 Fundamental Factors For Fulfilling Forgiveness
EXCERPT FROM MARK'S NEW BOOK ON FORGIVENESS | We all have been and will be sinned against and hurt by others. This, in turn, will damage our relationships. Therefore, being able to realize true, full forgiveness is one of the most important things in life, not to mention relationships. However, when it comes to forgiving one another, some people seem to succeed more, or struggle more, than others. Why is that? There are several pivotal elements which potentially hinder our forgiveness—or Continue Reading
Top 10 Marks of Enablers
ARE YOU AN ENABLER? First of all, let me just say this: we've probably all enabled someone at some point in our lives. If you care about others, if you like to help out when you see a need, if you tend to be "nice,"-- basically, if you are human--then it's likely you have “enabled” one or more people in your lifetime (in big or small ways). We all have our biases, especially when it comes to relationships and personal responsibility. And we will all get things wrong from time to time when Continue Reading
Reconciliation
8 Types of Reconciliation We often think in “binary” terms when it comes to reconciliation—that a relationship is either reconciled - or not. While it isn’t wrong to think that way at times, it is also important to understand that any reconciliation attempt can have many potential destinations. Just as an unclear or confusing dating relationship might need a “DTR” (Define The Relationship) talk, there can also be great benefit from a thorough and accurate definition and understanding of the Continue Reading