Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. (Galatians 5:1) Whoever first said, “Life is hard … and then you die” must have been a perfectionist (or a pessimist, or both). Yes, life can be exceedingly difficult, but—as a former(ish) perfectionist, and after decades of counseling perfectionists—I can attest that perfectionism is almost assuredly the hardest way of life. To put it another way, perfectionism is Continue Reading
Performance = Value
The Lies (Part 3) [ Read Part 1 and Part 2 of Truth & Lies ] Lie #1: Performance = Value My value comes from my performance. The first specific lie we'll look at in our series on Truth & Lies is the one that says: My value is based upon my performance. In other words, believing how well we are performing or how much we have achieved determines our value. This lie tells us that doing enough good works, or attaining a certain level of perfectionism will somehow make us worthy of Continue Reading
Perfectionism + Depression
When I first met Mark Baker on the fortunate referral from friends, I felt like I had hit bottom and was ready to seriously consider medications for depression. I was irritable and detached - horrid feelings for a mother of four. I was scared to death that my emotions and mood were affecting my kids. My husband and I have one biological child and three by adoption, siblings who joined our family at the same time - all age 3 and under. I was a bit overwhelmed in the beginning, but felt like I Continue Reading