THE GOOD OL' BOYS CLUB | Those who enable abusers often have just as much responsibility as those who abuse. And those who enable abusers in the church have even more to answer for. The Good Ol’ Boys Club is the tendency to circle the wagons for friends—for those in the “in” group (those in power)—rather than seek the truth, no matter who might be guilty. The mentality here is usually along the lines of: “Friends protect friends, no matter what … no matter what the truth is;” or “Friends Continue Reading
Broken Wolves
If someone has suffered a great deal, or is "broken," "authentic," or "raw"--BUT is also in error regarding their beliefs, teachings, and the solution to their suffering--he or she often receives "immunity" or a pass when it comes to being challenged or confronted on their false beliefs or teachings. It is nearly impossible, especially in today's environment, to challenge the error. Why is this? Mainly because anything you say will almost always be attacked or minimized. Most Continue Reading
Top 10 Marks of Enablers
ARE YOU AN ENABLER? First of all, let me just say this: we've probably all enabled someone at some point in our lives. If you care about others, if you like to help out when you see a need, if you tend to be "nice,"-- basically, if you are human--then it's likely you have “enabled” one or more people in your lifetime (in big or small ways). We all have our biases, especially when it comes to relationships and personal responsibility. And we will all get things wrong from time to time when Continue Reading