THE END OF OUR MARRIAGE? After several years of unhealthy communication, harmful coping, growing resentment and hopelessness, and so much more, our marriage seemed to be over. Pop-psychology and some religious leaders affirmed that it likely was over, that too much damage had been done. At the same time we were continuously told to “trust the process” and “give it time”—and that involuntary separation from each other without guidance could be healthy, even in parental alienation with our Continue Reading
Understanding Perfectionism
Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. (Galatians 5:1) Whoever first said, “Life is hard … and then you die” must have been a perfectionist (or a pessimist, or both). Yes, life can be exceedingly difficult, but—as a former(ish) perfectionist, and after decades of counseling perfectionists—I can attest that perfectionism is almost assuredly the hardest way of life. To put it another way, perfectionism is Continue Reading
Joy In The Midst Of Suffering (Testimony)
[ Counseling Testimony ] This year found many of us wondering what the Lord was doing in the world. Each of us were forced to reflect, examine, and question in ways we hadn’t imagined. On a personal level, the pandemic was the least of my worries as I watched the landscape of my life crumble. My struggling marriage deteriorated. I’d become an empty nester having poured myself into raising six children and my job came to a complete stop as many experienced. Little did I know that the Continue Reading
Not That Kind of Socialist
YEAH, BUT … I’M NOT THAT KIND OF SOCIALIST Inevitably there are those socialist proponents who declare that their brand of socialism is not like the others. While trying to distance themselves from past Marxist attempts, they claim to be a kinder, gentler sort of socialist. They say things like: “No, we don’t believe in that kind of Marxism. We’re just trying to give everyone a better life in a society where everything will be more fair, equal, and just.” “Our socialism has a small Continue Reading